For episode 284, devon and nico hase return to the Metta Hour to talk with Sharon about their new e-book, This Messy, Attractive Love: A Buddhist Information to Lasting Partnership.
devon and nico function guiding lecturers of the net dharma neighborhood Refuge of Belonging. They educate on the Perception Meditation Society, Spirit Rock, and different facilities, provide on-line and in-person retreats, and communicate with college students in one-on-one periods. Their first e-book How To not Be a Scorching Mess, got here out in 2020 and their 2026 launch, This Messy, Attractive Love, is now accessible in paperback and audiobook codecs. That is devon and nico’s second look on the Metta Hour.
On this dialog, devon, nico and Sharon discuss:
- The motivation for the brand new e-book
- After the “fortunately ever after”
- Approaching relationship as apply
- The therapeutic of deep listening
- Widespread myths of relationships
- Buddhist character sorts
- Dukkha (struggling) in a relationship
- Impermanence informing connection
- Forgiveness apply
- Totally different battle types
- Studying find out how to restore after rupture
- Making room for play and pleasure
- Supporting one another’s pleasure
- devon & nico’s three-year retreat
This episode closes with a guided appreciation apply led by devon. Be taught extra about devon and nico’s new e-book, This Messy, Attractive Love, and different choices by visiting their web site proper right here.
Be a part of Nico and Sharon just about on Might ninth, 2026 for a daylong educating The Fireplace That Sustains.
You’ll be able to hear devon and nico’s first look on the Metta Hour from 2020 proper right here. Please notice: nico has modified his title, and beforehand glided by craig in his pervious podcast look.
Extra from Sharon Salzberg:
Soar into the primary episode of the Metta Hour Child’s Collection with Susan Kaiser Greenland
Tune into Ep. 1 of the Metta Hour to study The Buddha Inside
Hearken to Sharon’s Meditative Story, Hosted By Rohan Gunatillake
Hear from Tara Brach and Sharon Salzberg in Ep. 56 of Metta Hour


