On this episode of the Being Effectively Podcast, Forrest and therapist Brandy Wyant talk about limerence, an intense and sometimes one-sided state of romantic obsession. They discover how limerence differs from each love and extraordinary crushes, why uncertainty fuels it, and the way it can take over an individual’s internal world. Brandy shares each scientific insights and her personal lived expertise, describing the obsessive ideas, compulsive behaviors, and disgrace that usually accompany limerence. They look at its overlap with OCD and dependancy, and talk about sensible methods from CBT and ACT.
Key Subjects
- 0:00: Introduction
- 2:00: What’s limerence?
- 5:26: Limerence vs. a crush
- 11:28: Why analysis and remedy lag behind
- 13:38: Therapy approaches and sensible methods
- 24:47: Attachment, susceptibility, and disgrace
- 29:05: How limerence shapes relationships
- 38:12: On-line communities and reinforcing obsession
- 49:18: Self-worth and validation
- 53:41: Recap
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