We’ve all had moments the place we watch ourselves make the precise unsuitable selection: procrastinating on an essential activity, selecting a combat in relationship, or pulling again simply when issues are beginning to go nicely. That is self-sabotage, and on this episode of the Being Nicely Podcast, Dr. Rick and Forrest discover why we do it and the best way to cease.
They speak about how self-sabotage usually serves as a type of psychological self-protection, and why doing nicely can really feel like a risk to our identification, earlier than discussing avoidance coping, the battle between facets of who we’re, and why we keep protected fairly than stepping ahead. Alongside the best way, they provide sensible methods for updating outdated inner fashions, working with completely different components of ourselves, and constructing the internal sources that make actual change potential.
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Key Matters
- 0:00: Introduction
- 2:05: What’s self-sabotage, actually?
- 6:10: Why self-sabotage is commonly a type of safety
- 10:20: Avoidance coping and the logic of “protected failure”
- 14:40: The identification price of doing nicely
- 18:55: Inside battle and the components mannequin
- 26:15: Problem vs. risk: how the mind evaluates danger
- 32:05: Actual-life examples of self-sabotage
- 37:30: Easy methods to start working with self-sabotaging components
- 45:45: Working with self-destructive components
- 51:10: Creating safer circumstances for development
- 57:25: Constructing a suggestions loop that reinforces belief
- 1:02:40: Recap and extra take-aways
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