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What Are You Avoiding? – Deconstructing Your self

Qamar by Qamar
July 6, 2025
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Welcome to tonight’s guided meditation with me, Michael Taft. Should you’ve by no means been right here earlier than, what we’re going to do is to take a seat for an hour. We’re going to take a seat with out shifting–you’re welcome to lie down for an hour. Should you don’t really feel ready to try this, we’ve got this different room obtainable, the place you’ll be able to watch the video, and transfer when you have to. However, in any other case, the concept is that we’re going to be actual nonetheless. Usually we perform a little stretching first, however tonight, we’re simply going to dive in.

Meditation

Let’s start just by asking your self the query, what’s it wish to be me proper now? Simply tuning into the ideas and emotions, physique sensations, simply the overall climate system of your being. There’s no judgment right here–no matter it’s wish to be you proper now, and no matter climate techniques are passing by your being, that’s precisely the best way it needs to be. All the things is totally okay, simply the best way it’s. Let’s simply discover that for a second. 

Now, simply tune into the sense of openness, a way of ease and spaciousness. And, from this very large open sense of spaciousness, simply discover the sense of the breath rising and falling. We’re probably not concentrating on the breath, it’s extra just like the wind of the breath is solely seen within the sky of the thoughts, with none tightness or focus, simply large open, straightforward, relaxed. And into this openness, and spaciousness, and boundlessness it’s very straightforward for consciousness to simply discover, the wind of the breath rising and falling, and rising and falling. And, as we’re doing that, I need you to permit any rigidity, any tightness, any constriction, and constrictedness to empty away from the muscular tissues of your face and head, your brow stress-free, your cheeks stress-free, your eyes, eye muscular tissues, eyelids releasing and letting go, your mouth muscular tissues, your lips, stress-free and opening. Virtually to the purpose the place you’ll be able to really feel them swelling barely from the additional blood movement, your jaw releasing. 

Persevering with to simply sit like an open sky, boundless, straightforward openness, during which the wind of the breath is rising and falling, with none effort. Simply discover that any sense of contractedness or rigidity drains away out of your throat, your neck, your shoulders, and is changed with a way of ease and softness and gentleness. In order that now the entire face and head, your shoulders, throat, and neck, really feel a way of launch, within the sense of settledness. Virtually in a method, mirroring that openness of the thoughts. Then simply let your arms and fingers grow to be as limp as moist noodles. All that rigidity that we have a tendency to carry in our wrists and fingers and fingers from trackpads and keyboards and so forth, simply let that drain away. 

Acknowledge that we’re not going to make use of these fingers to do any work proper now, so our arms and fingers can truly, lastly, not be able to act, however relatively, fully be comfy. Fully at relaxation. You may even really feel some added tingling of blood movement in your fingers and fingers, as all of the muscular tissues of your arms and fingers chill out and open. As you discover the muscular tissues of the face and head, throat and neck, and shoulders, arms and fingers, all releasing, opening, softening, turning into light and comfy. It turns into straightforward to simply drop now right into a a lot deeper sense of peace and spaciousness. A type of boundless open presence, during which the wind of the breath is solely rising and falling with none effort in any respect. 

Good. Now, simply discover any sense of tightness or contraction or rigidity in your higher chest or again, draining away, releasing, flowing out of you. The entire higher a part of the torso merely opening and releasing. Turning into gentle and unarmored, unguarded, and restful. This provides loads of room on your coronary heart to really feel heat and open, the center feels gentle and sort. And that gentle sense of glowing ease and kindness within the coronary heart permits the diaphragm to launch and chill out and let go just a little bit. The muscular tissues of the stomach and viscera, and within the again and kidney area, all simply merely grow to be peaceable and open, restful and comfy, as the stress drains away. 

There’s a lot extra room within the spacious openness of the thoughts for the wind of the breath to rise and fall, totally comfy, totally playful, encountering no resistance. Discover how, as you encounter extra rest and ease, by an increasing number of of the physique, a type of sloughing of layers and layers, and years and years of rigidity and tightness and constriction, the entire system begins to open up much more. And the entire being begins to drop, simply drop now right into a a lot deeper, extra genuine place of vivid, clear, wakefulness and ease. A spot the place the thoughts is each extremely open and relaxed, resting, and but, vividly, brightly awake, completely clear, with the wind of the breath merely rising and falling with out effort.  From right here, the muscular tissues of the hips, pelvic area and legs, decrease legs, toes and toes grow to be simply as limp as moist rags, fully at relaxation. Fully comfy. You may even really feel a tingle within the soles of your toes because the blood movement will increase there. 

Discover now that your entire physique has reached a deeper state of relaxation and ease, and this begins to feed again onto the thoughts. The core of the thoughts begins to simply soften and open. The core of the thoughts is sort of a muscle releasing, simply falling open into that boundless area of consciousness. The gorgeous sky of the thoughts, vivid and clear, and totally relaxed. Now, with every rising in-breath, the sky of the thoughts is conscious of the rising wind of the breath. However on every out-breath, the wind simply dissolves into the sky. Every out-breath, all the thoughts simply dissolves into the openness, into the area, into the intense, clear, wide-awake area. So, let’s do this collectively right here. 

Good, now, if the thoughts is constricting round something, tending to stay on a thought or sensation or emotion or sound or sight, simply enable consciousness to note that that itself is empty. Regardless of the thoughts is constricting round is, itself, simply extra space, extra sky, extra openness. Not in any method completely different than the large open thoughts that notices it. Already large open, already spacious, and simply self-releases. So, if you’re tending to come back again to planning, or a selected sensation, discover that that sensation itself is empty, is open, spacious, like attempting to hold onto the wind. It’s simply empty. It permits the thoughts to simply chill out again into being huge, boundless area of unsleeping consciousness. If it contracts once more, look deeply into no matter it’s contracting round. Discover that it’s simply product of extra wakefulness, extra sky, extra boundless open peacefulness. It simply dissolves into the sky. So, if you’re resting and open and peaceable, simply do this. If issues are arising that you’re constricting round, simply discover their vacancy. Every time you discover that, it is going to return consciousness to its already present vastness, ease, openness, playfulness, heat. Unsleeping, large open.

Noticing that something the thoughts begins to constrict round simply returns to open area, immediately dissolving again into boundless consciousness. Discover even that the sense of anyone doing the meditation can’t be held onto. It’s itself simply boundless sky.  

Good. Now, enable a query to come up, and the query is, what am I avoiding? What am I avoiding proper now? If one thing arises, a thought, emotion, or a reminiscence, simply let that be there. Don’t interact with it, however don’t push it away, both. It is perhaps one thing disagreeable, or it could possibly be one thing nice. Simply enable this factor you have been beforehand avoiding to simply come up on this great area, which has greater than sufficient room to be unbothered by this arising. Completely heat and welcoming to this arising. Perhaps some reactivity can be arising. That’s okay, simply let that be there, don’t become involved with it, however enable it to bounce within the sky of consciousness. 

Discover that, nevertheless nice or disagreeable, tough or easeful, that is, that the boundless sky of consciousness is just not bothered by it in any method. Not harmed, not ruffled, however, relatively, welcomes it. Discover, much more deeply, that this factor we’ve been avoiding is definitely not in any method separate from the area of consciousness. It’s simply as awake, simply as open, simply as vivid and clear, and has been since beginningless time. 

Now, be at liberty to let go of that, and return to easily resting as boundless awakeness. Totally at relaxation, totally free and playful, spontaneous, pure. Avoiding nothing, welcoming all the pieces. 

Good. Now, discover that this endless, timeless wakefulness is warm-hearted, and sort. And, into the sky of this wakefulness, image a full moon rising. A stunning pearlescent moon disc rising within the deep, deep blue of wakefulness. And this full moon is glowing with the sunshine of kindness, with the sunshine of friendliness, pleasure, welcoming all beings, shedding a way of sovereignty, the Aristocracy, authenticity, kindness, friendship, compassion and love, on all beings in all places, together with your self. Really feel that sense of pleasure and kindness rising a lot stronger, radiating out from this moon, this lovely moon. 

Then, on an in-breath, the moon comes proper into our coronary heart, turns into our personal coronary heart, shining within the sky of the thoughts. Radiating peace in all instructions, love and pleasure in all instructions, to all beings in all universes. The disc of the moon begins to develop smaller and smaller, however because it grows smaller, it turns into stronger and stronger, the sunshine turns into brighter and brighter. And the facility of affection and pleasure and heat and kindness and caring radiating from that gentle turns into much more lovely, extra touching, much more light. Till the disc of the moon turns into only a level of white gentle, infinitely vivid, and endlessly compassionate. Then it vanishes into the boundless awakeness and compassion which have been right here since beginningless time. 

Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu

Good. Let’s finish the meditation there. Be happy to maneuver and stretch. Scratch no matter you’ve been dying to scratch. Any questions or stories about apply this night? Something you need to focus on? 

Q&A

Questioner 1: I’ve a factor that comes up typically once I’m doing compassion apply. There’s this response that’s simply, like, that is all a bunch of nonsense. I don’t have a query. In a method, I might simply say it’s resistance, dissolve it into the compassion apply. However, in one other method, it looks like I respect my mind for arising with that story. And, in one other method, it’s like, yeah, that is all made up nonsense, however so is all the pieces, so that you may as properly make up helpful nonsense. Significantly immediately there was loads of resistance to seeing the compassion. 

Michael: Do you’ve gotten that feeling while you’re watching a film? That is simply made up bullshit, why are we doing this? For probably the most half, we willingly pay cash to go see films, and interact in fantasy, and we don’t want it to by some means be something greater than that. It modifications our ideas and emotions in a pleasing method, and that’s okay, proper? So, in what sense does this have to be much less bullshit than that?

Questioner 1: I assume I might additionally change my ideas and emotions in a pleasing method by utilizing heroin.

Michael: Certain, give it a shot. See how that goes.

Questioner 1: I don’t suppose I’m going to try this. I see the place you’re coming from. Perhaps the larger query is, what’s a skillful orientation in the direction of resistance to apply generally? 

Michael: In a method it’s the similar query, however I’d guess—I’m simply guessing—that for this factor specifically, you’re being requested to open up just a little bit. For many people which will really feel just a little harmful, or I don’t really feel like opening up. You possibly can have compassion for that, but in addition, simply discover, why am I avoiding opening up? I’m not suggesting that we get into a giant evaluation of that, however simply look inside it, and see what’s it’s deal, and permit it to indicate itself to you. There’s some motive that it wants to remain just a little closed, and that’s okay, if it wants to remain closed. Nice, severely. I feel that, the minute that you just look in there, what you’ll discover is that it’s mainly needing some help to open up. Bringing that open, curious, engaged–Hey, how are you? What’s happening? Is there sufficient help for it to open up?–as a result of it usually feels higher to be relaxed and open relatively than closed. That’s what I’d suspect, anyway. Doing that can most likely, in the long term, be simpler than capturing heroin. 

Glorious, different questions or feedback?

How did the apply of asking what you’re avoiding go? Did that carry up something specifically, or have been all of us not avoiding something? Simply resting as pure vidya.

Questioner 2: I felt like I used to be coasting in a fairly good area, and you then stated to ask your self the query of what you’re avoiding, and I did. It did really feel like there was a refined avoidance occurring, so it felt like a superb match to go deeper. I appreciated the timing of the query, and the query in itself.

Michael: It’s attention-grabbing, how, once we need to go right into a relaxed open place, there is perhaps one thing we’re nudging away to make that simpler. So when you’ve established that, we will return and see if we will carry that in, and sometimes it’s kinda shocking. No matter is within the content material of that field of stuff you have been avoiding might be actually attention-grabbing, hopefully not too distressing. Given the comfort and the open place that we have been in by then, I assume you’ve gotten some useful resource for some tough stuff arising.

Questioner 3: I assume, for me, I’ve this concept that in meditation I’m imagined to really feel higher throughout meditation, imagined to be taking a break, as a result of I’ve been very busy immediately. So, what I used to be pushing away was all of the enterprise. I had a refined attachment to the concept this needs to be a break from that. 

Michael: Did you are feeling such as you received a break from all that, or was it like, oh, now I’ve to take care of all that enterprise and the break is over? I ought to go ship some emails.

Questioner 3: It was sorta flipped out and in, not constant. The actual posture I did this week was extra conducive to being relaxed, so I used to be in that mode, then jerking out of. It was a reminder that nothing has actually modified, I’m nonetheless within the scenario that I’m at all times going to be in. 

Michael: It’s a deep and attention-grabbing query. What are we meditating for, and does it change something? Perhaps a part of the bullshit query is, is it altering something? However, after all, minimally, it’s altering how we really feel within the second, altering our expertise of what’s arising as a result of we’re coming at it differently. However, on one other stage, it’s not altering something in any respect. Consciousness is simply consciousness, it doesn’t actually change. Perhaps we’re busy and we’re contacting that consciousness, and it’s simply large open, or we’re meditating and contacting that consciousness, and it’s large open, so perhaps nothing is altering typically. 

I really feel like it’s completely cheap to come back in and anticipate to really feel extra relaxed and open, nevertheless it’s humorous. Finally, your stage of relaxed openness can be restricted by no matter you’re avoiding, even whether it is simply enterprise, anxiousness, it’s going to be the factor you bump up in opposition to as you tune into extra openness. So, finally, that factor must be included, or there’s a restrict to how one can encounter the peacefulness and openness that’s obtainable. 

It’s like, right here’s this good resort room, there’s a superb mattress, you’ll be able to put down the shades and sleep, however there’s additionally a cobra within the room. It’s simply over within the nook, don’t fear about it. You possibly can chill out fully on this lovely room, however there may be this cobra within the room. In order that kinda limits how relaxed you may get. What we’re at all times doing is, as soon as we’re relaxed, we go over and see if we will make associates with the cobra. You can also make associates with a cobra. Then, finally, you’re dancing with a cobra, and as an alternative of being a anxious factor you’re avoiding, it’s a gorgeous, energetic good friend that’s obtainable, and that’s included. So now you’ll be able to chill out much more than you might have imagined. So, little by little, we need to discover this stuff and embrace them. Then, the flexibility to let go turns into bigger. So long as we’re shrinking away from them, we’re at all times going to be kinda tense. Does that make sense?

Questioner 3: Yeah, the analogy I consider is there may be some water, and the sand clouds the water, as emotion, and you then let the water be nonetheless, the sand sinks to the underside, nevertheless it’s’ solely then which you can see the water itself. Are there nonetheless fragments within the water, even while you’ve gotten it as nonetheless as doable, is there nonetheless some contaminant? It won’t at all times be the identical.

Michael: So, your concept is you need the silt to settle to the underside and the water to grow to be completely clear.

Questioner 3: Ideally, however there’s at all times going to be some that doesn’t settle.

Michael: That’s a typical metaphor, and it’s good for the primary a part of the meditation we did. Stunning metaphor for the stillness. However finally we need to fire up the mud, let the water get as silty because it desires, and spot that the water is simply as pure because it ever was. So it goes the place you have been speaking about, after which finally, when that will get actually obtainable, we on function discover that, in a method, the mud and the water are by no means actually separate. They go collectively. Even all of the sticks and bits of shell, and so forth, are a part of it. So we’re not rejecting that in the long term. 

You guys have been pumping out a lot compassion, I’m having a tough time speaking, nonetheless kinda knocked out. Particularly Kati. 

Different feedback?

Questioner 4: I prevented listening to you.

Michael: You prevented it?

Questioner 4: As I stated once I got here in, I’ve an infinite hive response over my whole physique for the time being. I like to take a seat actually nonetheless in apply, not shifting—I didn’t suppose I might do it, so I sat within the different room. I used the itching as my focus, 

Michael: Have been you utilizing it as a shamatha focus, or have been you vipashyaninzing it?

Questioner 4: Each. I noticed, while you requested what have been you avoiding? Once I was in there [the other room], I used to be not avoiding the itching, however simply bringing consciousness to it, and I didn’t scratch for an hour. And now, I are available right here, and my consciousness is conscious of all these different issues. I can’t keep away from the sensation of it, and I can’t keep away from the scratching. So now it’s annoying.

Michael: What’s inflicting that distinction, do you suppose?

Questioner 4: Equanimity.

Michael: In there you have been in a position to carry loads of consciousness to it, however in right here, there’s much more distraction, so it’s more durable.

Questioner 4: Sure, and as I’m sitting right here, I’m attempting to carry that peace again in. 

Michael: While you requested your self what am I avoiding, did it trigger the itching to blow up.

Questioner 4: It did just a little bit.

Michael: So attention-grabbing. As you get used to bringing that a lot openness to expertise, you’ll be able to carry loads of it to expertise as you’re strolling round. It simply takes just a little extra apply, to have that a lot allowance. [Itching is] Significantly designed by evolution to be unavoidable. That’s a superb one to work on whereas strolling round. Did you’ve gotten any moments when you might see that the itching itself was awake consciousness?

Questioner 4: Sure.

Michael: Are you able to do this proper now? 

Questioner 4: It was a bit that itching might unfold out in consciousness till I didn’t discover that it was itching, it was simply sensation. Then different instances it felt just like the itching sensation was so small in comparison with consciousness. However each of these techniques appeared like they might dispel the necessity to scratch.

Michael: It’s so attention-grabbing; deep down in there, it itself is conscious. At that time, scratch or don’t scratch, it’s high-quality. Good job sitting with that. That’s an actual yogi factor to do. 

Any final query, feedback, stories?

Questioner 5: I had the same expertise of the place of avoidance, after which a softening, and I used to be in a position to see the feeling that was uncomfortable. What struck me was how that sensation of avoidance modified a lot with consideration I delivered to it. It moved inside my physique, the depth, it sorta had its personal life pressure.

Michael: What did it really feel like?

Questioner 5: It was tight, undulating, going up and down.

Michael: That’s an actual energetic, energized factor.

Questioner 5: Then it appeared to transcend me, I used to be simply a part of it. Sensations of a lot of power shifting.

Michael: It doesn’t sound like avoidance at that time.

Questioner 5:  Then I felt prefer it, in some unspecified time in the future there was a metamorphosis that occurred.

Michael: I’m wondering if, as an alternative of an precise transformation, should you simply noticed extra deeply what it truly is.

Questioner 5: I feel you’re proper. It’s arduous for me to articulate, however, yeah. That rings true. 

Michael: So cool. Thanks for sharing, you guys!

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