On this episode of the Being Properly Podcast, Dr. Rick and Forrest discover the silent killer of relationships: resentment. They talk about resentment as a mix of perceived grievance (“I used to be wronged”) and helplessness (“and I can’t repair it”), earlier than speaking about how over-functioning and management tendencies can result in resentment in relationships – one individual shoulders extra of the load whereas quietly stewing about it. Matters embrace the position of rumination in protecting resentment alive, the distinction between official grievances and poisonous rumination, and why resentment can really feel protecting. Rick shares a step-by-step framework for dealing with resentment when restore isn’t potential, whereas Forrest highlights how communication and claiming company could be highly effective antidotes.
Key Matters
- 00:00: Intro
- 04:14: Legit grievances vs. unhealthy resentment
- 09:44: How perceptions of injustice and helplessness gas these emotions
- 20:04: Claiming your company
- 34:41: The way to work via troublesome feelings with others
- 50:11: The way to work via troublesome feelings when you’ll be able to’t work via them with others
- 1:02:51: Recap
Forrest is now writing on Substack, try his work there.
