On this episode of the Being Effectively Podcast, Dr. Rick and Forrest discover disorganized, or “fearful,” attachment. This complicated model happens when emotional intimacy and distance each really feel uncomfortable, and usually arises based mostly on tough life experiences. They unpack why this attachment sample kinds, what it looks like on the within, and the way it can change over time. Dr. Rick explains learn how to break the Catch-22 of disorganized attachment, and the way totally embracing and expressing your wants will be the important thing to discovering stability. Matters embody hypersensitivity, repression, experiencing out, self-regulation, and why “boring” relationships will be transformative.
Key Matters
- 0:00: Introduction
- 2:20: How attachment concept developed, and the way it has developed
- 11:20: How attachment types shift based mostly on life expertise
- 15:25: Social atmosphere and inside reliability
- 23:55: The catch 22 of therapeutic disorganized attachment
- 29:35: Leveraging coping mechanisms for therapeutic
- 32:20: Hypersensitivity and embracing your want for attunement
- 39:50: Repression, and experiencing out
- 45:45: Recognizing what’s true, and the way actuality is dependable
- 48:25: Caring for the physique, and innate self-love
- 53:45: Distinctive therapeutic approaches to disorganized attachment types
- 55:25: Embracing what you actually need, and making a coherent narrative
- 58:40: Backside-up self-regulation, self-trust, and internalizing optimistic suggestions
- 1:04:20: When steady relationships are “boring”
- 1:06:55: Self-respect and freedom in communication
Forrest is now writing on Substack, try his work there.