On this episode of the Being Effectively Podcast, Forrest and therapist Meg Josephson discover the fawn response, a survival technique the place security is sought by way of individuals pleasing. They focus on how fawning can begin as self-protection in childhood, however later morph into overthinking, hypervigilance, and self-abandonment. Meg shares her personal expertise, together with how fawning creates resentment and makes it tough to discover a wholesome relationship or determine your genuine wants. Matters embody turning into conscious of unconscious habits, constructing misery tolerance, grief, self-compassion, wholesome boundaries, and talking up for ourselves.
Key Matters
- 0:00: Introduction
- 1:18: Self-sabotage as self-protection
- 4:01: Bringing the unconscious fawn response into consciousness
- 9:51: Silencing needs and desires, battle avoidance, and resentment
- 14:33: Rediscovering needs and desires after individuals pleasing
- 18:05: The therapeutic arc: grief, anger, and relationship
- 25:30: Viewing individuals pleasing as a “half” moderately than an id
- 30:11: Good vs. compassionate
- 51:36: Hypervigilance and the NICER follow
- 57:22: Authenticity as “uncovering” moderately than “fixing”
- 1:03:02: Recap
Forrest is now writing on Substack, try his work there.
