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Gratitude for Merely Being – Deconstructing Your self

Mindful Observer by Mindful Observer
January 30, 2026
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We’re going to start tonight by merely checking in with what’s it wish to be you proper now. So, simply ask your self the query, what’s it wish to be me proper now? Then, merely look. How’s your physique really feel? What’s it wish to be that physique proper now? How’s your emotional world doing? Really feel into that. How’s your psychological life doing? Really feel into that, and, to no matter extent it’s current for you, how’s your life doing proper now? We’re, in a really direct manner, simply tuning into our present expertise, seeing it clearly, after which letting go of any want to vary it. Letting go of aggression in direction of it and the concept we need to make it completely different or higher or one thing.  As a substitute, simply merely letting or not it’s what it’s. Let’s simply tune into that for some time collectively, simply noticing the way you’re doing, and letting that be simply wonderful.

Good. Now, with out altering something in any respect, or doing something, simply tune into the already there wakefulness that’s current. The straightforward consciousness that’s there, whether or not you do something or not. Simply tune into that, setting apart, in the meanwhile, partaking from the equipment of the thoughts, and as an alternative, simply noticing instantly the easy consciousness that’s all the time current. When you’re questioning, “Effectively, how do I do this?” Effectively, that’s asking, how are you aware something is occurring? Nonetheless you realize something’s taking place, that’s easy consciousness itself. There it’s. It’s that straightforward. There’s nothing to do to make it conscious. It’s already conscious. You possibly can’t make it extra conscious. It’s already all the way in which conscious, however there are some issues we are able to discover about it. 

Once more, with out actually doing very a lot or altering it in any manner, to begin with we are able to discover that it’s very spacious. If consciousness is presently actually engaged with the equipment of the thoughts, it’s going to are typically relatively non-spacious. Once we set that apart, permitting the ideas and planning and evaluation to maintain going if they need, however we’re not likely concerned in it or engaged with it. Once we set that apart, we discover that the wakefulness itself, the notice itself, is already very broad, very broad open. You possibly can hear sounds from behind you and in entrance of you and above you and beneath. You possibly can hear sounds in all instructions. It’s already broad open. Mild is seen from all instructions, emotions are coming from all instructions. It’s broad, it’s broad open–we don’t should make it broad open. Simply discover that it’s already there, already spacious, and type of panoramic. You possibly can’t actually “do” spacious and panoramic. When you attempt to come from the equipment of the thoughts and make it occur–I’m gonna open it this fashion and unfold it that manner–that’s nonetheless a lot smaller and tighter than if we simply step again and simply let it do its factor, which is of course broad open. There is usually a actual urge generally to attempt to open it up. As a substitute, simply step again. It’s already broad open with out doing something in any respect. Relaxation on this wakeful broad openness.

One other actually attention-grabbing high quality of this wakefulness is that it has loads of vitality. It’s unsleeping. It’s very energized. A method we are able to play with that a bit bit that’s attention-grabbing is simply to breathe that vitality instantly into your decrease stomach. You don’t change your breath in any respect, actually, however with every in-breath, you simply really feel the vitality gathering in your decrease stomach. If you wish to, you may see it coming instantly in.   There’s a gap in your stomach and it comes straight in, or you may breathe it down if you’d like. With every in-breath really feel that vitality gathering within the decrease stomach and simply really feel how that’s clearly energizing to the system, to the physique and thoughts. In a manner, paradoxically, it’s additionally very grounding. Let’s simply breathe into our decrease stomach for some time right here from this very spacious place. We’re not likely concentrating. We’ve obtained this already current very spacious, broad awakeness, and we’re simply calmly noticing that we are able to permit this vitality to collect in our decrease stomach, beneath your stomach button.

On the out-breath, you may really feel it. It is a feeling that radiates out from that spot type of magnetically, so to talk–a sense of grounding and in addition energizing. Once more, with out making an attempt to control it, or management it, or transfer it round, you would possibly really feel the vitality radiating out from that decrease stomach into your extremities, into the remainder of the physique, into the top, and so forth. This tends to make the physique extra relaxed and in that rest, in that actual nice letting go, we discover loads of stillness.  

Possibly you’re having a extremely completely different expertise than what I’m describing–and that’s okay. I’m simply pointing to some issues that you just would possibly discover. 

Now, let’s transfer up, doing the identical means of respiratory right into a spot, however now we’re respiratory into our coronary heart. From this very grounded place of the decrease stomach and sustaining a type of sturdy footing in broad openness, simply breathe into the guts on the in-breath. Feeling the guts opening up, energizing and unfolding, a flower opening up. On the out-breath it radiates out heat; it radiates out a way of being balanced; it radiates out kindness; it radiates out connection. We’re respiratory out and in of the guts, and actually noticing how that feels within the physique, the way it feels energetically.

Typically that place can really feel a bit blocked or shut down, however that’s okay. Simply let or not it’s the way in which it’s, and see that as we breathe out and in of the guts heart, it tends to heat up. It tends to melt like butter, tends to naturally open a bit bit, with out us forcing something or imagining it must be completely different. It simply type of relaxes open, no less than a bit bit. Discover how, as the guts warms and softens and opens, how that feels in the remainder of the physique because it radiates outward, as these sensations radiate outwards.

Good. Now let’s transfer as much as the third eye, the brow. Inhaling there instantly via a gap within the heart of your brow. Inhaling and respiratory out. Permitting the eyes to essentially calm down, the face to essentially calm down. Getting some sense of this clear vivid knowledge vitality constructing within the third eye heart on the in-breath after which radiating outward on the out-breath. An actual sense of readability and lucid notion of seeing issues as they really are. As we breathe instantly into this brow heart, energized with this knowledge and readability, the equipment of thought simply falls aside, and we simply discover vivid clear broad open awakeness within the thoughts. Then radiating out into the physique.

Good. Discover, as we breathe into this house, and really feel into that house, contained in the breath, contained in the vitality within the brow is simply extra space. It’s simply broad open in there. We are able to really feel that there’s simply super boundless openness proper within the head. It’s nearly as if there’s no head. If we let go of imagining our head–let go of imagining the construction, and as an alternative simply really feel. What we really feel is broad open spaciousness contained in the vitality. It’s very exhausting for any explicit ideas to seize ahold inside that tremendously broad open energized house. It’s simply so relaxed and so open, and so free. It’s not likely motivated in any respect to seize on to any thought, which collapses it down.

Simply constantly letting go into broad openness, after which respiratory this broad openness straight down into the guts, which is already heat and open. Now we discover within the heart of that energized heat, sort, coronary heart, is boundless house. Every little thing else is a psychological image of the guts.  If we let go of, or don’t interact with, that psychological image, what we really feel is broad openness, super freedom and spaciousness within the coronary heart. There are physique sensations there however they’re not confining. Discover that the huge openness within the head is connecting instantly with an enormous openness within the coronary heart. In a manner it’s nearly like a tube or cylinder of huge house connecting the 2.

Good. Now we drop down, with this broad open, huge spaciousness, into the decrease stomach, noticing that, in that basically energized, grounded spot, there’s simply broad openness–the sky–and that that’s related to the sky-like high quality of the guts and the sky-like high quality of the thoughts or the top. Feeling how awake and clear and vivid that’s, and on the similar time, it’s merely broad open, very free, grounded, and relaxed. 

We are able to breathe in instantly via the highest of the top, down via the brow heart, via the guts heart, into the stomach heart. It’s only one huge open house. Then breathe again out, up that broad open channel. Regardless that we are able to nonetheless really feel the physique sensations, it’s as if your entire physique is simply utterly clear or totally boundless, totally with out boundary–only a movement of vitality in house.

Anyplace something’s sticking, simply let the house and vitality open that up, with none effort. It’s completely easy. It does it itself. Anyplace there’s any constriction, or crimping, or crunching, or tightening in any respect, simply let the vitality in house simply launch it. Anytime the thoughts hooks onto something, simply let the spaciousness simply dissolve the hooks, with none effort, with none doing in your half in any respect. It simply comes again into relaxed openness, broad awakeness, easy pure readability and ease.

Good. Now, if there’s any remaining sense that you just’re making a visualization or making an attempt to think about one thing if any of that’s occurring simply drop all that. Any remnant of that type of creativeness, simply totally drop it, and see that the spaciousness and the benefit and the readability remains to be there. It’s all the time been there. We’re simply letting it shine forth of its personal accord, with out distracting. Completely letting go of doing something in any respect. Simply relaxation as open presence. There’s no method to “do” open presence. When you’re making an attempt to make it occur, that’s a lifeless finish. You need to simply let go of making an attempt. What’s left is open presence, readability, ease and spaciousness, with none doing in any respect. 

If the thoughts contracts right into a stream of thought or a fantasy, simply discover that inside that’s super spaciousness. It’s already awake, it’s already vivid and clear and spacious, inside even that. Being caught up in a distraction is a type of doing, and all we actually must do is let go of that doing. Simply come again to relaxation, and we’re now not distracted. We’re again in readability and presence and ease. All of the makes an attempt of the equipment of the thoughts simply take us away from this. There’s no manner to do that. You need to simply not do. 

Typically individuals make an enormous doing out of not doing. That is simply not doing. Very merely, what occurs is that the spaciousness is current, the benefit is there, the readability, the stillness, openness. It’s simply all proper there the minute we’re not distracting away from it with a bunch of doing. The surefire signal that you just’re distracted or caught up in one thing is that you just’ll really feel the house contract. As quickly because the house contracts, simply calm down, simply let go, simply cease doing, and the naturally, all the time current openness of the house will reveal itself.

When you sit like this for some time, you discover one thing actually odd. You would possibly discover one thing actually uncommon, and that’s that as an alternative of feeling that you just’re sitting there doing a meditation, it’s going to really feel much more like huge house and readability and ease is manifesting a thoughts and a physique. You possibly can really feel the physique, and there are ideas, and the thoughts, and there are emotions, and all that, however they’re type of an expression of this open, clear, unsleeping house. They’re nearly showing in it, manufactured from it. In order that, as an alternative of being an individual doing a meditation and tuning into some type of consciousness, consciousness is vibrating into being a physique and a thoughts that simply does stuff. This physique and thoughts that seems inside and out of consciousness is a joyous expression of openness. It’s a lovely and noble manifestation from the very fountain of utter creativity, being recreated again and again, second by second, into pure presence, pure magnificence.

Moreover, you could discover that this expression of house as physique and thoughts doesn’t cease there. It radiates outward. This joyous expression of magnificence and profundity radiates outward touching all different expressions, and all these different expressions radiate again to you. So whilst this wakefulness, this broad open readability and presence, bubbles forth right into a physique and a thoughts and an individual, that effervescent forth can look again at its personal supply and simply say thanks, thanks, thanks, thanks.

Okay, excellent. Let’s let go of the formal meditation there, though, after all, the meditation can maintain going, because the wakeful house is all the time current. 

Let’s simply hop proper in with any feedback, studies, questions, issues that you just don’t perceive that you just need to direct at me, or stuff you need to say occurred.

Questioner 1: I’m simply curious when you may converse to when your thoughts is especially chatty, however you’re not likely clinging to the ideas. Typically I’ll go down the rabbit gap, which is the extra regular expertise. However generally my thoughts is speaking speaking speaking and it’s simply bouncing, and I’m not likely holding on to the ideas. Might you converse to that?

Michael: It’s an attention-grabbing factor. One of the widespread misconceptions is that we should cease pondering, or that if meditation is working, your ideas should cease. Some meditations do this, however on this manner of working we’re not. Bear in mind, the very very first thing I mentioned is we’re letting go of the aggression in direction of the self. Meaning we really feel we’ve got to vary what’s occurring. We’re letting go of that: we don’t should make the thoughts do that, or the thoughts do this. Some meditations are doing that, however on this manner, if it desires to speak, it might speak speak speak speak speak speak, however we’re simply not likely listening to it. It’s like, okay, you go over there and speak, we’re going to relaxation as awake presence. 

The speak doesn’t get in the way in which so long as you’re not grabbing onto it, hooked up to it, sure up in it. So generally I name that pondering factor the equipment of the thoughts. You possibly can simply set that down and it might sit there and nonetheless do its factor. It’s not getting in the way in which of something. It solely will get in the way in which when you can’t let go. When you maintain grabbing onto each thought, you then’re doing the previous tennis shoe-in-the-dryer factor. 

All of the spaciousness visualization helps to let that go, and once more, letting go, that means, actually, simply let it run if it desires to run. We don’t should cease it, we don’t have to manage it, we don’t should make it this or that thought. We simply let it do its factor. It’s a really hands-off type of method. We’re not getting in there and manipulating and controlling.  

Suzuki Roshi of the San Francisco Zen Middle used to say, when you’re a farmer with cows, and also you fence within the cows, the cows will break down the fence or bounce over it. The actual method to include them is to offer them a subject so giant they will by no means discover the sting of it. That’s the concept. Working that manner, what you begin to discover, is that to essentially be concerned in pondering is an exercise. You need to seize on, and that may be a type of pressure. When you be taught to acknowledge that second of cramping, it’s very easy to only not cramp. It’s an actual bodily taste–you may really feel it.  It won’t be bodily, however it’s a sense, so when you be taught to acknowledge, “oh, I’m grabbing proper there”, you simply don’t. 

Calm down, after which the ideas will run, or not, however you’re free, you’re simply broad open. We now have a psychological mannequin that we’re on the mercy of our ideas and so they type of “have us,” however actually, you don’t should seize on. They may be looping, however you don’t have to hold on and go for the experience. It’s an actual open manner of working.

Questioner 1: Nice, thanks.

Michael:  Yep.

Questioner 2: Hello. I needed to ask about posture.

Michael: Positive, sit up.

Questioner 2: Okay, again ache will come and go, so ought to I simply proceed making an attempt to sit up and strengthen my backbone?

Michael: It’s a tough one, as a result of perhaps your core may be weak, so it’s only a matter of getting used to having these muscle groups engaged. However, additionally we are able to do a factor;  If I say sit up–all people sit up–and simply listen when you do this. You would possibly discover that you just get actually tense in a sure manner whenever you do this. Is it attainable to discover a spot the place you’re upright, however it’s not tense? Typically we do this as an train.  You sit up and type of transfer round, not in an train manner, however in an exploration manner, the place it’s balanced, the place is it upright, however there’s nearly no muscle pressure. Possibly you’ve obtained some type of structural pressure occurring, however as you play with that an increasing number of over time, it begins to launch these structural tensions, and also you’ll discover you can simply sit upright for a extremely very long time, as a result of there’s nearly no effort concerned. You’ve obtained a extremely good balanced spot. 

Once we’re sitting actually actually nonetheless, it’s obtained to be essentially the most relaxed stillness–it’s by no means tight stillness.  It’s simply actually relaxed. If you discover actual ease and spaciousness, the physique simply turns into very very tender, and really open, and really nonetheless, and it feels good to be upright, as a result of the breath is so open, it’s so awake. So we’re discovering this place that’s tremendous relaxed and but actually awake and upright. When you’re making an attempt to be type of army upright–fallacious path. It’s a really relaxed and balanced upright. It’s tensegrity or one thing.

Questioner 2: Okay, thanks.

Questioner 3: I’ve this type of psychological course of the place a few of my expertise, perhaps it’s pressure…

Michael: Don’t struggle the stress, then that’s double pressure. I discover some pressure right here and I obtained to assault it make it go away you realize and so I’m gonna make these fingers calm down–that’s precisely not what we’re doing, proper? That’s aggression:  “I’m going to vary it,” and it’s an actual behavior in our tradition. We’re going to take that forest and make it a mall, whether or not it likes it or not. We’re not doing that, it’s extra, okay there’s some pressure there, can I discover the spaciousness and ease inside it, even when it’s nonetheless tense? There’s already spaciousness and ease inside it, so we simply type of discover that, and calm down round it, calm down in direction of it, and also you’ll discover it begins to get softened already, simply by eradicating our aggression in direction of it. Little by little, we’re simply permitting, permitting, permitting, and if I’m permitting, this may begin to open, however it additionally would possibly take some time. Simply to be actually clear, whereas I’m sitting I’m not making an attempt to drive something.

Questioner 3: I really feel I’ve a course of that goes round on the lookout for tenseness after which I’m “oh, that course of type of is a pressure.” 

Michael: It’s its personal doing doing doing doing; so simply let go.

Questioner 3: … after which I’ll be misplaced in thought.

Michael:  That’s a pressure, too, proper? So it takes loads of pressure to be misplaced in thought. You’ll discover, when you calm down that exact pressure, your thoughts goes open and really current. Then it’ll snap shut once more, then simply calm down once more, and over time the type of behavior of pressure within the thoughts will simply begin to ease. It received’t be such a robust behavior, after which ease some extra. So at first after I say “your thoughts is simply naturally open,” most individuals are, “no, it’s simply sitting there, closed.” However did you ever see somebody who’s been sitting in a chair just about all day lengthy for lots of years? They’ve a tough time. Their physique’s actual stiff. Our thoughts might be type of stiff if it’s used to being tight, however you’ll discover even inside that, there’s spaciousness and ease, even inside that pressure. We maintain coming again to that and even that type of routine tightness will soften. Particularly with the type of respiratory into it and stuff that we’re doing. That actually permits it to get supple, removes the inventory pressure fairly shortly, okay?

Questioner 4: There was a degree in the course of the meditation after we have been coming all the way down to the guts, as we have been happening, I felt overwhelmed, however that feeling of being overwhelmed was within the thoughts, it wasn’t within the coronary heart, it wasn’t nervousness. 

Michael:  Proper, and it wasn’t in your stomach both, proper?

Questioner 3:  Precisely, not in my stomach. It was in my thoughts, however there was no affiliation with the actual thought, and that made me need to disconnect nearly as a result of I felt as if it’s simply too overwhelming, I simply must take a step again. Is that widespread in meditation? That is my first guided meditation.

Michael:  Positive, certain, that may be fairly widespread though you might have an unusual degree of readability about it, in order that’s good. You should utilize the stomach and the guts as a useful resource as a result of they’re not overwhelmed. So as an alternative of “Oh, I’ve obtained to depart the meditation, I’ve obtained to get out of this,” you simply maintain feeling that groundedness and kindness and ease within the stomach and the guts, and the sensation of overwhelm will soften and ease and go away. Basically it’ll relax. 

Loads of instances the thoughts isn’t used to not being caught up in thought, and it’s “whoa, the place’s the bottom, as a result of I’m used to being tight contained in the equipment, and if I if I’m not in my cage, the place am I?” So it’s the overwhelm of freedom–you get used to it, after which it received’t freak you out anymore, okay?

Questioner 3: Thanks.

Questioner 4: I seen with the actual wordage of letting it go or releasing it, I seen my thoughts’s routine tendency to see that as rejecting it or avoiding it. For instance, with the posture, I discover each time that I come and sit on this explicit type of mat, I’d have chosen the chair however I didn’t actually have a selection.

Michael:  You possibly can all the time ask for one more chair, we’ve got a lot of them, so be at liberty, okay?

Questioner 4:  Good. I’ll do this subsequent time, as a result of I seen that loads of ache arose in my physique and what was rising was this a part of me that was feeling rise up of, “how dare you inflict ache on me within the identify of freedom, or one thing.” I’m interested in your ideas on that.

Michael:  There’s lots to say about that, however I’d say, subsequent time, sit in a chair and don’t simply sit in ache. When you should transfer, transfer. Don’t simply sit there letting that be inflicted upon you. Much more deeply, outdoors the meditation, there’s loads of ache that’s going to be inflicted on you by life, proper? Most cancers ache, and stuff you can’t do something about that’s inflicted upon you. So is your response to that simply going to be, “how dare you?”? It may be for some time, proper? Possibly for a very long time, and that’s a completely good response. 

However, finally, it’s nonetheless taking place; ache of being previous, ache of adverse stuff taking place in life, ache of buddies dying, ache of relationships falling aside, ache of kids shifting away, ache of all of the stuff that occurs. All of it will get inflicted upon us, and that’s not some type of mistake of some sort. It’s tragic, however in one other mind-set about it, it’s simply life. So we’ve got to be taught to sit down with that, too. That’s why generally on goal we do–we didn’t tonight–however generally we actually work with the ache that comes up in meditation, both emotionally or bodily, for that very purpose: as a result of within the deep finish of the pool, that’s the stuff that meditation is actually instructing us to work with; as a result of rebelling towards it doesn’t get you wherever. It simply wears you out. The stuff that may’t be modified. Posture we are able to change, however there’s stuff we are able to’t change, and that’s why this isn’t simply “let’s all drift away on a cloud of nice fantasy,” we’re actually studying to work with the ache that life brings. 

In order that query is essential, and it’s what our follow teaches you. If you could find spaciousness even in ache which is unquestionably there, you begin to perceive how you can work with this. So once more, all the time, if it’s essential to transfer to not be in ache, do this, however generally there may be different smaller pains that aren’t fairly so overwhelming, that you just select to work with and start to note that they, too, are spacious and free and current. This goes in an attention-grabbing path, a extremely highly effective path. So it’s a basic query.

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