At the moment on the Being Nicely Podcast, Dr. Rick and Forrest discuss what separates people-pleasing from the fawn response, and why these variations have an effect on what truly helps. They hint the shocking historical past behind each concepts, clarify every’s relationship with trauma, and reply frequent questions alongside the way in which. They focus on why outdated friendships pull you again into outdated patterns, when appeasement is definitely the fitting name, how you can assert your wants when folks anticipate you to concede, and the way to determine what you need after a lifetime of tuning into everybody else.
Key Subjects
- 0:00: Introduction
- 2:05: What’s the distinction between people-pleasing and “simply being good?”
- 8:50: Frequent indicators of people-pleasing
- 21:00: The place “people-pleasing” and “fawning” come from
- 27:00: Pete Walker, trauma, and the way the 2 phrases bought merged
- 30:45: “Is the battle inflicting my anxiousness, or is my attachment model inflicting the battle?”
- 39:10: Changing into extra assertive
- 47:30: The way to change relationships constructed on the pleasing model of you
- 55:15: Emotional neglect, disgrace, and studying what you need
- 1:04:30: Recap
