Why is it so laborious for us to do what we really wish to do? On this episode of the Being Properly Podcast, Forrest explains the hidden construction of self-abandonment: how disgrace drives the loop, how the loop produces extra disgrace, and the way the internal critic makes use of a “can’t win” scenario to maintain us caught. Then he and Dr. Rick discover what really breaks the cycle, together with the position of anger, the distinction between disgrace and grief, self-compassion, and what it actually means to get by yourself aspect.
Key Matters
- 0:00: Intro and overview of self-abandonment
- 4:38: What’s the value-add of self-abandonment as an idea?
- 8:30: The behavioral loop of self-abandonment
- 21:55: How a elements mannequin might help us perceive the disgrace
- 26:20: The double-bind of self-criticism
- 32:56: The right way to get out of this double-bind
- 41:34: Anger and resentment
- 49:47: Shifting from disgrace to grief
- 56:15: Breaking out of the self-abandonment loop
- 1:10:22: Recap
Forrest is now writing on Substack, try his work there.
