On this episode of the Being Nicely Podcast, Forrest and somatic therapist Elizabeth Ferreira discover a standard supply of relationship battle: the mismatch between “fixing” (shifting shortly into problem-solving) and “feeling” (wanting attunement and empathy earlier than options). They speak about the place these patterns come from, how every features as a psychological protection, and the position of gender socialization, identification, and adaptation. The dialog additionally touches on trauma, nervous-system activation, and why constructing security often comes earlier than actual, sensible change.
Key Matters
- 0:00: Intro
- 3:40: “Fixing” vs. “feeling,” and why each may be protecting methods.
- 6:03: Socialization and discovered coping types.
- 9:12: Why battle occurs
- 14:28: Attunement, then problem-solving.
- 18:35: How discomfort with emotion shapes communication
- 30:48: What change appears to be like like in apply.
- 33:49: Trauma and nervous-system activation
- 42:32: Serving to logical-first individuals open up emotionally.
- 46:49: “Would you like empathy or options?”
- 49:03: Teaser about Complicated PTSD in relationships.
- 52:30: Recap
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